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WHAT MATTERS ?

What matters?

My religion or that I subscribe to something greater than me?

How many times I pray or that I try to live a good and morally upright life?

Where I worship, or that I see God in all men (women)?

My creed or my positive influence ?

What matters?

My college degree or my skills ?

Who I call friend or the fact that I have friends?

Who I look up to or the kind of life the person lives?

How much I earn or the fact that my family does not lack?

What matters?

That I have a house or that I have a home?

That I have a wife or that I love my wife?

That I have a lot of children or that I provide for all my children?

That I have a family or that I am building a legacy?

What matters?

That I convey my message in writing or that I get my message heard (read)?

That I write long essays or that people read my posts to the end?

That I think in poetry or that I make my life a poem?

That I exist or that I impact my community?

What matters?

That I am black or that I am a human being?

That I am a woman or that I give birth to children?

That I am young or that I have the necessary skills?

That I am grey haired or that I speak wisdom?

What in this world really matters?

Be the Anomaly

To dare to be different is courage.

To choose to ask “why” is wisdom.

Never be lost in the multitude.

Never lose who you are.

Be uncompromising on matters of principles.

Be steadfast on matters of faith.

Having a large following does not mean you are right.

Having few followers does not mean you are wrong.

In actions and choices be like no one.

In actions and choices find your path and stay there.

Don’t despise success because you are not successful yet.

Don’t despise small beginnings because you think success is an event.

Better to stand among friends than to sit among enemies.

Better to stand with your integrity than to take the high seat in dishonesty.

Be ready to learn from all (even the thief).

Be ready to treat all the same (even those who disagree with you).

Don’t be ruled by your goals and desires.

Dont be weak when you need to show strength.

Don’t postpone what you can finish now.

Dont schedule for planning what needs no plans.

Respect your subordinate’s right to exist and breathe the same air you breathe.

Respect your boss’s right to grab on to the chance that made him your boss.

To impact this life choose to be an anomaly.

To impact generations be more than the chances that life throws your way.

There is only one of you in this life, so you are already an anomaly. You have only to make a conscious decision to live as such.

Life’s Flash Cards #2

This is a continuation from the previous post.

Death is not the end . It is rather the beginning of eternity.

Emotions are not weaknesses. They are fulcrums upon which we define our humanity.

Time is not unlimited. It is measured in the rising and setting of the sun.

Hope does not die. It lasts forever for he who so desires it.

Risk is not jumping off a bridge, hoping the water will save you. It is rather jumping off a bridge after making sure the factors that will aid your fall and cushion your landing are in place.

A drunk is not always wrong. Sometimes he says the truth that we don’t want to hear.

Being alive is not about sleeping and waking. It is about having an interaction with people and environment, being felt wherever you go.

Religion is not about mosques, churches, temples or other places of worship. It is about your personal relationship with God.

Expertise is not about knowing everything. Its about knowing enough of everything to have a meaningful conversation.

Sight is beyond what the eyes see. It is more about what the mind perceives.

Care is not about provision. Its about your being present when necessary.

Books may hold the key to knowledge. But life experience holds the key to wisdom.

Patience is not always rewarding. But it is always hopeful and fulfilling.

Music is not just about sound. It is about both sound and words.

Animal pets can’t take the place of human friends. No matter the argument you put forward, they are still animals and you still need to relate with your species.

Passion can’t be subdued. It always finds a way to boil over and give excitement when needed.

It is not hard to dress well. You are always addressed as you are dressed.

The sun is not just to light your path. Its there to tell you that “another cycle has begun, make the best of it.”

Your boss is not your friend. He/she is a “slave driver” that must make returns to his/her own bosses.

No matter how bad your day is take a minute to relive your successes and victories, your good times and great times. And in them find courage and hope to attempt life again on a positive note.

Life’s flash cards #1

As my life continues to unfold before me, these are lessons I have learnt and keep learning. The knowledge journey for me does not end and so should yours.

Peace is not the absence of war or strife. It is the stillness of the heart in tumultuous times.

Courage is not the absence of fear it is the overriding desire not to conform to the expectations of your weaknesses.

Strength is not the size of your muscle mass. Its your ability to show your real self without masking your deficiencies.

Wisdom is no longer the result of gray hair. But the result of learning from experiences and making “flash cards” of the lessons so others can learn too.

Obedience is neither servitude nor acting without questioning. It is rather acting based on a conviction that you are free and so have a right to explanations when you are conflicted.

Parenting is not having children. Its being responsible enough to have children and raise them accordingly, to be your lasting legacy for good.

Abortion is not planned parenting. It is murder.

Marriage is not a ceremony. Its a “work in progress”  that lasts a lifetime.

An adolescent is not a rebel. Rather he/she is a person constantly shouting ” I want to find me, please help”.

Success is not an event. It is everyday that you find out you have moved beyond where you were the day before.

Failure is inevitable. Except you want to return to your maker like an unwrapped gift box, you must fail so you can succeed.

The feminine gender does not mean weakness. It means a partaker in creation and a reservoir of strength beyond compare.

Tears do not come from the eyes. They come from the heart when they are genuine.

Life is short. But our ideas and actions are immortal.

Whether because of the “big bang” or creation, we are here to change this world for the better. So why not start with you.

Growing old

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

MARK TWAIN

When I was a child I wanted to grow old like every child did. At that time the target was to be a teenager because they seemed to know all things. And then when the teenage years came the target shifted again. I now wanted to be old, not wrinkly old but just grey hair old; to enjoy my grandkids jumping on me and having a field day at my expense.

Now I am in my mid thirties and am wondering if I want to grow very old. I am seeing very old people with their creaking knees and bent backs, and am wondering if the joy is worth the journey?

So I took myself to task to find out why people should enjoy getting old and the results were awesome. I will list a few of them here in no specific order and hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

  • We start ageing from conception so we really have no say over it
  • Ageing is not a disease, it’s a natural process
  • Wisdom comes from ageing, because from your experiences you have learnt quite a few things.
  • With ageing you learn that there’s no haste in life. Where the sprinter gets to, the consistent trekker will also get there.
  • With advancing age you understand that your parents were looking out for you when they made the “home rules”, that they were not out to ruin your life.
  • With ageing you learn to choose your battles right and not fight every battle that crosses your part.
  • With ageing you know yourself better and so can see the stupidity of your younger self.
  • With ageing you learn to listen more and talk less because your words are now weightier than when you were younger.
  • As you become older your life priorities change, buying the latest iphone is no longer important using that money to prepare for your tomorrow trumps the phone.
  • As you old you get more confidence than your younger self.
  • As you old you learn to enjoy every minute of life because you don’t know when the home call will be.
  • Growing old is not an end , it is a beginning

There’s so much to make you look forward to getting old, either grey hair old or wrinkly old, creaking bones or bent backs. It is such an awesome expectation that you can’t afford not to prepare for it. Now I look forward to growing old much more than before. I have understood that it’s not the vessel, it’s the content that matters and old age should make us better. Like old wine tastes better than the new, so our lives should be. So how do you feel about getting old?