I had a discussion recently with a friend, a much younger friend. We were talking about who we plan to be and who we eventually become in terms of the career parts we choose or situations choose for us. It got me thinking.
After sampling a few opinions and looking at the life experiences of those around me I came to the startling conclusion that “as children we have clear visions of who we would be, but we go to school and major most times on what our parents want us to be or what society tells us is a good discipline, and then we graduate from college to work in positions that the work environment tells us is available”.
And so I ask, who kills your dreams, you or the society, destiny or circumstance?
My opinion is that your dreams don’t die until you declare them dead. So in as much as circumstances may not be favorable right now to accomplish your dreams it doesn’t stop you from planning on how to achieve your dreams or seeing the future you hope for. In the strata of visions (I use it interchangeably with dreams here), there are primary, secondary and tertiary visions there may even be Quaternary visions depending your perspective.
It is important to note that in this stratification there is no chronology of how you must go to accomplish them. In order of importance though: primary dreams are the most important followed by secondary dreams and so on. Primary visions are the ultimate; they are the things you want to be remembered for, your legacy. It is the one vision you can die to achieve, the one vision that if you don’t achieve you will forever be unfulfilled and miserable irrespective of other accomplishments in other fields of life.
It may take a while to achieve these dreams given that the resources and materials necessary to achieve them are not readily available,hence the ‘delay in achievement’. However it is necessary sometimes to seek achievement of a less important dream as a stepping stone to your primary vision.
Take this scenario for instance: Abigail is a cheerful, respectful and unusually motivated teenage girl that is much loved in her community. Ever since seeing a presentation of Peter Pan in school she knew on her inside that acting is the only career part that can make her fulfilled and happy in life.
But she comes from a single parent home and has five other siblings aspiring like her to be respectable individuals in life. Being the eldest she has to work after school hours to augment the family income, the work period means she doesn’t have time to go for acting rehearsals as much as she should and increasing demands at home means increasing work hours to help their mum meet the needs of everybody.
Now at this point in her life it may be necessary to put her dreams on hold for a while until the pressure of family sustenance is reduced or removed completely at which time she can pursue her dreams to completion.
Within this period of “dream latency” it is important that you make a conscious effort to keep your vision alive within you never being completely subsumed by the daily rigors of trying to accomplish a more pressing task. The idea that your dreams are achievable gives you hope to look forward and pay less attention to the obstacles of today because really they will be the stepping stones of tomorrow .
Without our dreams of life we can make no lasting impression in this life, we will only glide by and the world will never notice that we were here.
On a personal level, your dreams give purpose to your life, it gives you a possible endpoint and it is for you to work out the road map that will get you there.
You may be in a cynical position now where you look back on your dreams and declare them childhood fantasies or unrealistic visions of life, well; everything is impossible to the one who thinks they are.
Andrea Bocelli could have abandoned his dreams when he lost his eye sight at age 12, but he didn’t and today he is among the best classical musicians of our time. “Sacred arias” his solo album sold five million copies to become the highest selling classical crossover album by a solo artist of all time.. His persistence paid off so can yours.
If Susan Boyle decided to stop singing she wouldn’t have come to international attention following her appearance at the 2009 edition of Britain’s got talent at the ripe age of 48, today because she did not give up ,she has an enviable music career that have seen her perform for the queen of England at the Windsor castle. Her debut album “I dreamed a dream” became UK’s best selling debut album of all time.
Tyler Perry, the now great African-American actor and director and play right, who authored the popular “Madea” series of movies, had his plays turned down by so many agencies that a less motivated man could have quit. He even used all his money to finance the first stage production of his play and even that had very poor reviews. But he kept his dream alive and was persistent. In 2011 he was named the highest paid man in the entertainment industry by Forbes. Today he owns the only African American movie studio in Hollywood. And the comical Madea character that he portrays is now going to get a cartoon version expanding the franchise further.
In the song “Climb ev’ry mountain” performed by Richard Rodgers in the movie “Sound of Music”, the American lyricist Oscar Hammerstein II ,wrote:
“Climb ev’ry mountain, ford ev’ry stream,
Follow ev’ry rainbow, till you find your dream.”
Don’t give up on your dream or yourself, it’s the easiest thing to do. Follow the hard way and let the world celebrate you and your dreams.