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Failure as a stage of success

We live in a world that glorifies success and rightly so. We celebrate the successful and despise the failures, success stories become “motivational” speeches on how to “make it” in life. The successful become celebrities and famous, be it in politics or film ,in industry or science we make celebrities out of those who have achieved.

Now there is nothing wrong in that, except that in celebrating a point in a journey we forget and unconsciously neglect the whole journey. So those who fail amount to nothing, are not reckoned with are despised and  not allowed to talk.

We have naively chosen to forget that success is neither spontaneous nor instantaneous. There is no “big break”, no ” epiphany”, rather success is a  process at the beginning of which you will almost certainly find failure.

The enigma of the Living, is that he who lives has to fail in other to succeed. By trying and failing, you have become a little bit more successful than you were before you failed.

Why?

For every attempt you make to succeed, you break down barriers and obstacles first in your own mind before you go ahead to make an outward effort to be successful. That’s a measure of success; believing that you are more than what you see and striving for greater things.

The problem with failing is not in its nature but in its interpretation. The individual who fails loses self esteem , becomes discouraged, gives up at times , becomes frustrated at other times. But it is in those who see failure as a learning experience and a spring board to try again that you glimpse the power of failure to push , to encourage to motivate to strive more to work harder. It is all because they understand failure not to be the end but a point in the journey just like success ddoes

Some people fail to succeed so they may end up valuing the success more, others succeed without failing they may despise failure and think success is a right, while still some may succeed just to fail ,when they find success again they are wiser and better understand that life is full of points but each stop doesn’t define the journey only the end does.

It is said that the coward dies a thousand times before his death, but I say  the one who fails succedes a thousand times before his triumph.

®Fr

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To catch a falling star

Chill, I talk not of the heavenly body
Indeed not of celebrities.

It is of average men and women
Who daily lose hope and give up their dreams.

“Stars” that felt they no longer shine
Or they have no reason to give light.

We are all stars, in this world
And it’s because of us that the world is bright.

Our skills and talents,
Our compassion and empathy.

Our love and dedication,
Our ability to be visionaries and pace setters.

But sometimes we forget the reason that we shine.
We forget that we give light to others.

In those moments, it is “I” over us
And so we need an energy boost.

We need to be reminded, that our lives matter.
That we no longer exist for ourselves alone.

That our being able to shine brightly
Is a source of hope for another dimming star.

We encounter failure and question the need to go on.
We are met with obstacles and we wonder if it’s worth the stress.

But then you have to pass thru the thorny branches to reach the Rose.
You have to dig thru the mud to find the gold.

The heavenly stars are so far away, millions of light years away.
Yet they give light to us wayfarers down here.

In this our interconnected world,
Distance has been blurred and so our light reaches the ends of the earth.

We inspire beyond our immediate space and time zone
We are encouraged by lives beyond our physical reach.

So why not encourage and motivate somebody by your story.
You just might catch a falling star.

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©Fr

The process….

When we succeed nobody remembers our failures, when we triumph, they forget our battles and it’s bruises. When they see our finished structure, they forget we worked for it and paid the price.
There is always a process to accomplishment; hard work, perseverance, tenacious focus, vision, and most of all patience.

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“What costs nothing means nothing” Success is in getting up after a fall and trying again, and again and again until you achieve success and then your failures are forgotten.
Give it another try ,you never know.

©Fr

Today’s newness and what it offers

I wonder how far or fast you can go today if you carry yesterday’s burdens and woes into today. Today has enough problems of its own waiting patiently for solutions. So why tie yourself down and then complain that you are not moving fast enough.
Let the worries and frustrations of each day end with it and begin each day on a brand new slate.
Today is a new day, the first of April , 2016; there’s only one of today in existence why not make it count?
Joy is a choice, to be happy also is a choice ,to be swallowed up in sadness is within you sphere of decision making, to feel lost and frustrated always is also a choice. I am not saying don’t feel sad or depressed or frustrated at times , of course those will come. I am saying don’t let the failures of yesterday deny you of today’s joy, don’t let the fears of last month deny of this month’s adventure , don’t get stuck in a cycle of pain and worry and so forget to live, or to fight for the things that matter.

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Start today and this month with a mindset to “put away the ranger and be the king you were born to be.”
Live a conscious life today and this month not on cruise control and see yourself blossom and become more than you thought you can be.

©Fr

Random thoughts on success

Success is never accidental,
Consciously or otherwise there must be a plan.
If you don’t plan to succede then you plan to fail.
The hunger for success must be more than the allure of mediocrity.
You tried before and you failed, so what?
You can see it as failure or as a new way not to do things.
In essence you need to be a “half full glass” person not a “half empty glass” person.
You must motivate yourself
Nobody will or can do it better than you.
You must desire to move beyond the present state.
Once you get too comfortable you sleep off in stagnation.
Success is a point along a line
Reach it and move on don’t stay there or you will miss other “points”.

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My Antithetical World

In my world

The sand is blue and the sky is brown

We look down for guidance and upwards when in sorrow

The sun’s rays hit us from below and the rain falls up

In my world

Men fight for inclusion and women call the shots

Men are vulnerable and women decide their fate

We exercise to get cold and cover up to fight heat

In my world

It is princely to be short and being tall is a disadvantage

Weakness is strength and slow is fast

Being fat is healthy and being thin, not so much

In my world

You reach for the sand not the stars

The sky is within your grasp and the ground is unreachable

Terra firma is fluffy and the sky is hard as steel

In my world

Humans are counted in the hundreds and panda bears in the billions

Failure means success and people aspire to go down instead of up

The foolish are wise and the wise foolish

 In my world

Success is easily forgotten and failure is celebrated

The river flows upstream and ocean is stagnant

To lie is to tell the truth and to steal is to help keep the other person’s goods.

What Nobody will tell you about Life

Nobody will tell you that the path to success is riddled with failure.

Nobody will tell you that there are frustrations on the path to achieving your goal.

Nobody will tell you that you need to persevere if your prayers will be answered.

Nobody will tell you that some actions are neither white nor black but a shade of both.

Nobody will tell you that not all lies are bad, that it is moral to lie in defence of life among other things.

Nobody will tell you that God is not just a judge that He is also a lover, so He is not waiting for you to fail so He will punish you.

Nobody will tell you that merit alone may not get you promotion but personal networking most certainly will.

Nobody will tell you to learn how to speak well because a lot of the people you will meet in life will judge you on how well you communicate orally.

Nobody will tell you that alcohol can cause kidney or liver failure so you should drink in moderation.

Nobody will tell you that politics is not the devil’s profession, that its work for saints and demons alike.

Nobody will tell you that you should keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Because the enemy you know is better than the friend you think you know.

Nobody will tell you that a new shoe hurts like hell. You see people wearing them and you think all is well.

Nobody will tell you that life is beyond parties and partying. Until you wake up to notice that your peers are employing people and you dont even have a job.

Nobody will tell you that you dont really need a college degree to be a success. A lot of successful people dont have them.

Nobody will tell you that you dont need to attend an ivy league school to be adjudged excellent. A lot of notable academics did not start from the ivy league schools.

Nobody will tell you to sleep adequately. You think sleep is a waste of time? Wait until you have a stroke.

Nobody will tell you that your youth is not the best time of your life. Your retirement is , because that is truly when you can afford not to do anything and the heavens will not fall.

Nobody will tell you that life happens only once. Because we can so focus on doing other things we think important and life will pass us by.

Nobody will tell you to learn from experience. Because its only a fool that forgets his past and disregards the lessons he can learn from it.

Nobody will tell you to play more. That all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.